Monday, September 3, 2007
Lamu
Lamu, a small town on an island in an archipelago of the same name, off the northern coast of
Friday, August 17, 2007
Swahili Wedding
Swahili weddings are a fascinating mixture of Islamic tradition and Western style. While the brides must be virgins (complete with virginity testing), they are allowed to wear spaghetti strap white wedding dresses straight out of American pop culture. Because there are no men at the all-night disco, women come scantily clad in their best dresses sans bui bui, despite the fact that the entire male population of the town voyeuristically watches from behind 4-foot tall potato sack fences. The entire wedding—disco, lunch, and ceremony—is divided by gender. Not only do the bride and groom not spend the wedding together, they actually don’t partake in any of the festivities, only the ceremony. On the day of the wedding, the guests gather for dancing (an interesting mix of traditional Swahili music and Shakira, Akon, and Beyonce (pronounced with a silent “e”)), lunch (communal plates of dead animals), and hours of sitting and waiting for the bride (or in this case, brides) to show up. Meanwhile, the groom goes to the mosque to get married, while the bride waits at home. Once they are officially married (the groom agrees to the marriage at the mosque), the bride shows up to the party, where she stands on a dais decorated for valentine’s day and waits for her husband to come fetch her for the wedding night.
There are very few things about western culture that I find outright superior, but I have two words: honeymoon suite.
It’s one thing to sit through an hour long cultural discussion about traditional wedding practices and entirely another to share a wall with the awkward-and-uncomfortable couple on their wedding night. It’s funny how sex is so taboo, but having witnesses to the virginity testing is entirely acceptable.
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
Living in a Sexist State
Machismo is not the norm in Kenya. Men are polite and accommodating, even chivalrous. Honestly, my only friends here are men, but only because the women spend 18 hours a day boiling water for bathing, cooking three meals a day, sweeping dirt floors, working on their shamba (the Swahili word for farm), and raising hoards of children (the average in the village is between 4 and 7, but I personally know one family that has 19 children).
The men are not bad people. They aren’t subjugating their wives and daughters for fun (or so I’d like to believe); sexism is so deeply rooted in the cultural mores and religious practices that even the women believe that they are less worthy. While women are expected to be strict Muslims, wear their bui buis and hijabs, and pray five times a day, they are not allowed to enter mosques. Men must always be served first, even if that means that the women and girls must go without the food that they grew, gathered, and cooked.
A friend of mine, who is a nice, down to earth, friendly guy who refuses to let me pay for anything despite the fact that he makes about $12 a month. I recently went to visit his house where I met his entire family. When I suggested that we could do our own dishes, he guffawed as if I had suggested that he should attempt to give birth to quintuplets. Sincerely, he explained that when there are no women around, he was at the bottom of the hierarchy and had to do the family’s grunt work. But as long as his sisters were there, they must do everything. He laughed about how sometimes he has to beat his sisters. When I asked why, he replied, “If they don’t do everything I tell them to, I have to cane them. Otherwise they’ll never learn.”
I am trying to be a cultural relativist. But seeing women treated like dogs is difficult to stomach. And attempting to improve their situation by giving them education, jobs, and birth control is only making it worse for some of them. How are we supposed to reach gender equality without becoming cultural imperialists?
Monday, July 30, 2007
At the entry to Amboseli, one of
Cliché Africa: Head-to-toe khaki, telephoto lenses, tents with running water and electricity, and lions chasing zebras across the savannah. Well, three out of four ain’t bad.
Seeing some of the world’s strangest creatures in their natural habitat is awe-inspiring, but being a tourist in a country where most the people won’t earn the cost of lunch in a month is tragic. The tourism industry is justified by the usual rhetoric: the money goes back into the local economy to help the poor. But most the tour companies are British, or at least based in
Of course, the first time I saw an elephant ten feet away, I forgot all about the dirty feeling that I was contributing to the fall of humanity. Every warthog conjured up the opening verse of Hakuna Matata and the backdrop of Kilamanjaro and acacia trees fulfilled my quintessential image of
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
But tedious work for a cause is still tedious work, if only more painful due to the lack of resources. I have neither the patience nor skill to deal with ten year old computers that crash when attempting to install anti-virus software and take anywhere between 30 seconds and five minutes to open a blank document. The hard drives are overloaded with work from volunteers who left years ago and colonies of ants seem to enjoy living in the keyboards. A task that should take fifteen minutes can easily eat up two hours. Fortunately, American hyper-efficiency has yet to make its way to Kenya. The people here live a slow-paced lifestyle. In fact, they even have a phrase, “Pole pole,” which translates to “slowly, slowly,” to describe just about everything here. In between bouts of cussing at the computer, I’m becoming very Zen.
In addition to teaching English, math, and computer classes, I am working on transitioning the EAC Sewing Club into an independent cooperative run by the women themselves. The executive director of the EAC described it as a graduate level project in sustainable development. I am in no way educated or experienced in the field, though I was looking into development for my master’s work, so this, like so many other things, will be an interesting test run.
So far, though, my work in sustainable development has consisted of typing up price lists of all the products, converting the prices into U.S. dollars and euros, and taking pretty pictures of purses, skirts, and tablecloths. And somehow it all seems even less meaningful when sitting in front of a 90s Dell for eight hours a day.
Friday, July 6, 2007
A view of the village from above
My first week in
I rode from the airport in a new silver Mitsubishi on the worst pothole-ridden dirt roads I’ve ever seen. My driver, the husband of EAC’s founder and executive director Suzanne Jeneby, quipped that in
Everything about development in
Takaungu Beach
I am working with the
The impact of Westernization is evident at every turn. The television stations, based in